“In the end, only three things matter: how much you loved, how gently you lived, and how gracefully you let go of things not meant for you.”
This has been one of my favorite quotes since I heard it sometime back in a movie. And yes, each of the three things mentioned above surely matters when it comes to being happy in life. Even though the first two points are important and I consider them easier than the third one. Let go of things not meant for you.
And to decide if something is meant for you or not, its a huge task for someone who is light hearted. Light hearted people fear of the pain they would have to go through and the memories add fury to that pain. Memories are dangerous beings.
I believe the ability to forget is a blessing in disguise. It might not be easy to do it, but yes its the only solution to encounter the dangerous demon called memories. Some memories does bring in a smile on your face, but they are short lived when reality slaps and makes you realize that the time has passed from past to present and then it would move in to the future without those moments and people.
As the process of forgetting takes time, the more powerful solution is to let go of them. It’s isn’t a easy process and takes time combined with a strong heart to take a decision and then letting your brain concentrate on other things which you really loved doing.
I have had personal experiences seeing people who did some amazing and appreciable stuff once they moved on. And now they are super happy in their lives. Memories vanishes with time.
The pain is during the journey towards that happiness. Metaphorically memories are the stations that we left behind, and happiness is the destination. To reach the destination, we need to take the journey, however painful it is.
And the ticket to the journey is the decision to let go of things, the memories attached to them.
I am about to begin such a journey, currently in the queue to get that ticket.